We have been conditioned to believe that as a woman, we should ALWAYS be SMALLER than a man.
We often associate matching or exceeding our partner’s weight or size with feelings of self-hatred.
It’s important to remember, just like women’s bodies are different, MENS bodies are different too.
Male or female, we ALL have completely DIFFERENT genetics, skeletal structures, AND metabolisms. These varying factors dictate how our bodies look, meaning weight can look different on EVERYONE.
As a woman, you can feel like you HAVE to be dainty, petite, and small. This narrative has been CONDITIONED in us by everything we consume, women always being shown as the DELICATE counterpart.
My favorite tv shows and films growing up would ALWAYS depict a woman with a much smaller frame and a contrastingly much bigger partner.
I would see them wearing their partner’s sweatshirt like a dress because it was that BIG on them.
Being EASILY picked up.
Taking up LESS space sitting on their partner’s knee.
I’ve had previous relationships whereas the bigger one, I’d WASTE so many hours loathing my body for not being lighter than my partners, questioning HOW they could love my bigger body.
Now, I know its OK if my bodies are bigger than my partner. Its OK if my body weighs more than my partner. My body is my own. It’s unique, and it’s DESERVING of love regardless of the space it occupies.
The size or shape of my body does NOT define the love I am allowed to receive from my partner.
The size or shape of my body does NOT define me as a woman.
I am defined by so much MORE than my body, and so are YOU 💗”